Advice from Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin.
A friend I rarely see, other than on social media, posted a confusing message. As she seemed to be in great distress, I clicked on the “care” button and figured I’d find out in time what was going on.
Turns out, her husband had died suddenly. Do I send her a letter of condolence on her loss, with perhaps an offer to meet her for coffee at some time in the future? Or, in my confusion, have I exceeded the statute of limitations for expressing condolences? I don’t want to make her life worse right now.Because you think you pushed the “care” button too many times? Whether this is literally the case or not, metaphorically it is not possible.
Is it rude to just ask a question over text without some kind of preface? Or is that OK when people are expecting a shorter message?: Text messaging is, at its core, informal. But Miss Manners shares your affinity for prefacing the subject with “Quick question” or a short greeting.• • •I don’t think this is good manners. What do you think?DEAR MISS MANNERS:
United States Latest News, United States Headlines
Similar News:You can also read news stories similar to this one that we have collected from other news sources.
Miss Manners: My friend rewards their dog for barking at visitorsAdvice from Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin.
Read more »
Miss Manners: What should I say to my nosy hairstylist?Advice from Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin.
Read more »
Miss Manners: Was I supposed to accommodate an uninvited guest’s coffee preferences?I asked if he wanted milk or sugar. He said he wanted sugar and cream. I told him that I do not use cream, and therefore don’t keep any on hand.
Read more »
Miss Manners: Is it too late to contact a friend who lost her husband?The writer did not realize cryptic social media posts were about the death of her husband.
Read more »
Miss Manners: Our argument in the restaurant ended our friendshipPlus: When I reacted on social media, I didn’t realize her husband had suddenly died.
Read more »
Miss Manners: Host wants guests to reward dog for barking... the dog barks when anyone arrives, not stopping until someone gives him a treat.
Read more »