... weddings have gotten exceedingly expensive and that couples simply cannot afford to invite everyone. Why not just let it go?
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have taken note of repeat inquiries about how to deal with not being invited to a wedding -- presumably, though not always in so many words, without being a jerk in return.
Why do we expect them to explain their circumstances or choices to us? Why should anyone take personal offense or press for a reason they were not included, much less devalue the relationship? Why not just let it go? But Miss Manners does not care for the reason that you cite. It means that the wedding arrangements are considered more important than the guest list.
Fine, if that is what they want. It is when they want that more than the presence of people they care about -- or whom they know care about them enough to want to attend -- that Miss Manners finds their values disturbing.
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