Plus: I no longer give presents, and I think I hurt one relative’s feelings.
I have a close friend who is getting married, for the third time. In between her marriages, she has had lengthy relationships with other men.I’m OK with all of that, except for one thing: She is treating this third marriage and its ceremony as if it’s her first.
I used to send presents to everyone, but now that I’m retired, I’ve decided to stop. I’m wondering if this is rude. Most of these kids are overly spoiled and barely know us, anyway, since we live out of state. But I think I have hurt one relative, whom I love to pieces, by not sending gifts anymore. I told her why, and she says she understands, but I feel so guilty.
“Playing favorites” carries the implication of an arbitrary choice conferring an undeserved advantage. That would be hardly the case if you chose to give presents to relatives who appreciated them, but not to those who ignored them.
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