He claims to have no regrets. I regret growing up around him.
My 65-year-old brother Greg is dying. Lately, he has wanted to talk about how he has no regrets about the “wonderful” life he has led.Asking Eric: I’m not on board with my wife’s vision for my retirement years
My parents were too busy dealing with his teachers or the police calling about Greg fighting or setting fires. I know Greg’s no-regrets mantra is his way of accepting his impending death. But I can’t tell this mostly unrepentant brother that I have no regrets. Just growing up in the wrong family was bad enough.: “Know your truth and tell your truth.” So said Kent Matthies, a therapist at Council for Relationships, when I consulted him about this letter.
You’ve been conscripted unwillingly into your brother’s narrative. So, the goal is for you to find ways to define the story for yourself and reclaim your power. Your brother may not be what you need to process your pain. You don’t have to have no regrets. But acceptance of what the truth is and where you are emotionally is possible.
Honestly, I’m totally fed up with putting considerable time and effort into an email only to hear nothing in response. Why do people do this?: Time to pick up the phone. Even if he doesn’t FaceTime, if he has a computer, it stands to reason he also has a device that will receive phone calls.
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