This article addresses three different etiquette dilemmas: dealing with a friend who is too talkative and bothersome, parents who insist on using a married name despite the individual's preference, and a same-sex partner who was not invited to a wedding despite the spouse receiving an invitation.
How do I tell my friend to go away and leave me alone? I need my alone time to recharge, but she will keep talking and bothering me, especially during lunch at the studio where I work.
She loves to eat spicy chips and they smell gross, and I don’t think she has ever chewed with her mouth closed. Other than that, she is a good friend.: Tell her that meeting at the studio is not a viable option for you. It is your workplace and not a place you like to eat socially. Then, just one time to show goodwill, offer to go out to lunch instead. Miss Manners cannot guarantee that your friend will keep her mouth closed while she eats there, either, but if you choose the restaurant wisely, perhaps you can avoid one that serves gross-smelling snacks.I kept my birth name when I got married 10 years ago. However, my parents insist on calling me “Mrs. Husband’s Last Name.”
They’ve used a variety of excuses -- they were being polite to my husband , or they were keeping things simple for the mail carrier. They’ve even insisted that I am still “thinking” about changing my name and that they will use this in the interim.This has gotten tricky when it has legal/financial consequences. They generously booked a trip for the extended family through their travel agent, but the name they booked doesn’t match any of my travel documents.
What is the correct response that doesn’t leave me waving to them from the other side of the TSA line?: “If you could please use my legal name on any official documents, that would save us all a lot of confusion and paperwork.” And then Miss Manners suggests you let them have their way for the less formal correspondence. At least for the time being.: I am in a committed same-sex marriage. My spouse was invited to his friend’s upcoming wedding. I was not.
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