'What if Dear Abby was on Grindr?'
It came from my agent being like, “We have to put a book proposal together.” Young gay boy writers have this glamorous idea of being Carrie Bradshaw, someone who writes once a month and somehow was able to afford an apartment in Manhattan. There's just something funny about taking this 5’11 heavyset Mexican man—me—and putting it in those pumps.
One thing I recognized very quickly in writing this column is that my powers begin and end with me being your bestie at the bar. You can talk to me and I'll talk back, but I'm not like a doctor or a therapist. I went to a state school. The book really is about wrestling with the question of authority. What have I gone through in life? What have I overcome that would lend me the wisdom and experience to help someone else? Each chapter is a really important event.
One thing I've learned from being on Grindr is that people's standards for the word “papi” are pretty low. I mean, if you're calling me “papi” in my twink days, it clearly has nothing to do with me being the muscle-bound Latino that I am today. It's a narrative they want to apply to someone— “I am looking for a papi online. I have this weird fetish fantasy thing. I'm going to find the first Latino on this app and just apply it to them.” The papi comes before the horse.
I think that people really underestimate loss as an element of their identity. By its nature, it's something you don't have. You can't turn it over in your hand. It can be a lot harder to look at it and be like, “Actually, the fact that I don't speak Spanish is a legacy.” It's not the only legacy for my community, but it's certainly mine, and it points to very material things. It points to discrimination in hiring practices. It points to racism and xenophobia.
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