My family treated me so horribly as a child. I fear for how they'll treat my daughter.
I have to admit to being curious about your end goal here. Your letter suggests you want to keep a relationship with your family, but you also say that none of your family members means that much to you and that they’ve never treated you respectfully. I might be reading into it, but you seem almost eager for them to say something that will give you “permission” to cut ties.
If they do something that you find offensive, you might say in the moment, “I don’t appreciate how you just addressed my daughter. It brings back some really painful memories from my childhood. I never felt like I fit in in the family. I don’t want her to feel that way, so please use more positive words next time.” If that feedback isn’t accepted, or if the behavior doesn’t change, then you can have a clear conscious about either leaving the gathering or withdrawing from the family altogether.
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