In today's Dear Annie column, Annie Lane hears from a reader who cared for their parents for more than a decade and now has the chance to move and live their own life, much to the five other siblings' chagrin.
Today's reader has a chance to move and start a new life, but their siblings just want them to stay home and take care of their elderly mother.Somehow, sometime, it was determined by my family members that since I was living at home after being disabled, that I would be the sibling who would be responsible for caring for our parents until their death.
My father passed away about 12 years ago, while Mom is still with us. However, she requires more care than I can give, but my siblings don’t see that. I recently came into funds that would allow me to relocate to Tennessee and an independent living community where I went to college. But my five siblings want me to stay and nurse Mom till the end.
If I can, I’m going. I’m already planning a visit to Tennessee to visit several facilities to make a final decision. I expect pushback from all five siblings, but I am tired of trying to meet other people’s expectations. I figure with 800 miles distance, I can finally get away from them.
Of course it’s not fair for you to be solely responsible for your mother’s caretaking, but jetting off without any communication is not quite fair either. Explain to your siblings that you are seizing this opportunity to live in Tennessee, and then start brainstorming a plan for your mother’s care. Ideally, the six of you can all chip in; not only would this be the most fair, but it would also give your mother the opportunity to spend time with all of her children.
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