One sibling is upset their 85-year-old mom chose her active social life over moving closer by, while the other sibling backs mom.
My sister wants our 85-year-old mother to move closer to her. Our mother, who is in good health, still drives, is active in her church and has lots of friends, wants to remain in her home and not move 600 miles away.
My sister is livid that our mother won’t move, is calling her selfish and says she will no longer be available to help her. I think our mom has a right to make her own decisions and don’t understand why my sister is so angry. Next: The word “rift” is probably accurate, but the bigger issue is frustration. It’s mutual, I’m guessing, between your mom and sister over the mismatched … let’s call itYour mom is in the now. I don’t blame her for this one bit. She is a healthy, competent adult with her own life, and it doesn’t take an oracle to see why she doesn’t want to move. I wouldn’t either.
Next: If she’s A-okay with this reality because she assumes you and your sister — from significant drives away — are her Plan B, then your sister’s frustration starts making sense, doesn’t it?
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