I'm ready to clear out most of the stuff, but my husband isn't.
I am a happily married gay man. My husband and I are retired, and we both love to spend our time shopping at thrift stores and antique shops. We each believe the other has a hoarding problem. I believe that we both do, but to varying degrees.
I want to sift through this mess, choosing to keep only the very best. Then, have a sale. I just don’t know where or how to start. Unfortunately, all that my husband will part with has been damaged in the hoard. The narrative that’s escalating conflict between the two of you might be one that people who hoard often hear: hoarding is wrong, and therefore you’re bad. If either of you is hearing it from the other constantly, it will be hard to feel motivated to change.motivated. Focusing on what you can work on within yourself may lessen the tension. And, if it widens the gap between you, counseling can give you tools to navigate it.
To be honest, I really don’t feel we want to continue with this group. I am hosting next and would like to gracefully exit after my turn. Any ideas on how I can do this?Make the next dinner a farewell send-off. A gathering like this is the perfect time to say, “thank you and we’re moving on.”
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