My husband, who suffered from ALS, voiced concern about his brother's drinking; his brother then played the victim.
About six months after diagnosis, we had a graduation picnic for our granddaughter.My husband called his brother and he admitted that he’d hit her car, but said he was too drunk to return to the party, so he was going to call later the next day.
And yes, it is obvious how disappointing your brother-in-law’s behavior has been, but addiction has a way of blunting a person’s humane responses. It’s as if the disease has to find a way to win, and so alcoholics will quite naturally reject confrontations, course corrections, or even expressions of concern.Your brother-in-law told you exactly what he would do, and then he followed through.
Because – this much is true – nothing you do will affect the real source of your grief, although releasing this element of bitterness in your life will definitely help.
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