So much of what we know about adult relationships hinges on the way our parents interact with each other. Here's why.
problem-solving with the child, setting behavioral limits, and strategizing ways to deal with the situation that led to the negative emotion.Interestingly, the researchers did not connect emotion coaching to parental warmth and noted that concerned and positive parents can be oblivious to the world of emotions.
But what they surmised about parents who embraced a dismissive meta-emotion philosophy is key to the discussion of how your parents’ marriage affected you, especially in a household characterized by dead silence when it came to feelings.
Other observations about what the researchers called this emotion-dismissing philosophy will ring bells for many who grew up in these households. They noted that sadness was often perceived as a burden on the parents, a problem they had to fix, and that by dismissing sadness as unimportant, the child would become happy. Additionally, some put time limits on how long sadness could be displayed and became impatient or irritated when the child didn’t change her emotional demeanor.
What these parents didn’t do is explain or describe their child’s emotional experience, help the child with either her emotions or how to solve or address the problem that evoked these emotions, or see the emotion as beneficial in any way or providing any opportunity, either for intimate connection or teaching. Further, the researchers noted that many dismissing families actually punished their children or put them in a timeout for expressing anger.
United States Latest News, United States Headlines
Similar News:You can also read news stories similar to this one that we have collected from other news sources.
Jinger Duggar shares rare picture of two-year-old daughter for special reasonJinger Duggar's daughter Felicity was singing in church and the picture was shared by family friends
Read more »
The rise and fall of sex-selective abortion in GeorgiaFor centuries Georgians strongly preferred boys. But since the fall of the Soviet Union their customs and values have changed
Read more »
Singapore’s thirty-somethings are leaving homeSingletons are no longer happy living with parents until they’re 35 | Asia
Read more »
Dear Care and Feeding: My Wife is Mad I Found Our Child’s Donor SiblingsI took my spouse at her word that I could “do whatever I wanted.” Now she’s really upset with me.
Read more »
Travis Barker Hints at Marriage, 'Forever Isn’t Long Enough' with KourtneyTravis Barker wasn't coy about his intentions ... he's on a path that's leading him to the altar.
Read more »