A wife writes to Dear Abby after discovering her husband has relapsed into drug use and is spending time at an apartment building in a bad area. She suspects infidelity and is unsure how to proceed.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married to my husband for 30 years. For the past five years, I’ve noticed that he is acting a little different. He’s lost a lot of weight. I found out he’s been smoking drugs. He had this problem years ago, and I thought we had it beat.
But now I’m getting the impression that maybe you can’t ever beat it. My daughter gave me a tracker for my birthday. I put it in his car to see where he went, and it showed that he went to an apartment building and was there for almost an hour. I don’t know who lives in that building, and I have never been there. I suspect that he’s cheating on me. I can’t think of another reason he would be in an apartment building in a really bad area if there wasn’t something keeping him there. When I asked him where he was, he said, “Why are you asking me so many questions?” I know my husband lies to me. I’m at my wits' end and don’t know what to do. I know it will be really hard to leave if that’s what I choose to do, but I guess I have no other choice. When I suggested marriage counseling, he refused. I told him he needed to do drug counseling. He said he doesn’t have a problem. Clearly, he does have a problem. I told him he’s too old for this. What do you think I should do? -- SUSPICIOUS IN MICHIGAN DEAR SUSPICIOUS: Before doing anything else, it is important you protect yourself. Talk to your doctor about being checked for STDs. Then tell your husband about the tracker and ask him to explain about the time he’s spent at that apartment building. Was he with another woman? His drug dealer? Depending upon the answers he gives you and whether you can believe them, you may want to talk to an attorney to determine how you want to proceed.Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby atMiss Manners: It’s your choice not to invite me to a social event, but don’t talk about it in a group textDear Abby: My stepdaughter died tragically and I’m not sure what to say to our son-in-law on his anniversary Miss Manners: I’m blind and I don’t get offended when someone I don’t know well says, ‘good to see you’ If you purchase a product or register for an account through a link on our site, we may receive compensation.and agree that your clicks, interactions, and personal information may be collected, recorded, and/or stored by us and social media and other third-party partners in accordance with our
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