Although her disturbing life experiences were usually the butt of a joke, it doesn’t make them any less harrowing.
Throughout the show, Phoebe seems to have commitment, trust, and intimacy issues in her romantic relationships until she meets her husband-to-be Mike Hannigan in season nine. It’s not a given that someone who had these experiences would have trouble in the love department, but Saltz explains that it makes sense that you’d have problems trusting your partner to stay.
Especially after both parents displayed to Phoebe that people can disappear on you.“For a long part of the show, she seemingly has a lot of difficulty with dating,” Saltz says. “That could be because the suicide of parent can impact your ability to have trust and create long lasting intimacy with another person,” she explains. Phoebe also displays signs of denial throughout the show. For example, there’s an episode in which she thinks her mother has come back to her in the form ofThis is a fairly natural way to process the kind of rocky life Phoebe had. “Some people’s reaction to trauma is to use a lot of extreme denial as a defense mechanism to stay engaged in their lives,” Saltz says. “Phoebe makes light of it or denies it or sees some good in it.” An example of her making good on her psychologically damaging encounters: She brings up her mother’s death to get Rachel to give her the last blueberry muffin at the coffee house. The fact that she mugged people also isn’t totally unthinkable when it comes to what she’s been through. “That someone might commit crimes after having had huge loss, trauma, and having to survive on the street? That’s believable, psychologically speaking,” Saltz says. “It’s a method of survival… after having so many horrific things befall you, you might develop some antisocial traits. For example: Breaking the rules and having no compunction about it. That wouldn't be shocking.” What is shocking is that after surviving all of this, Phoebe is so caring for her friends and animals. She’s a kind person, with a good heart — despite it all. I asked Saltz what she would prescribe for Phoebe if the quirky New Yorker was her patient. Saltz says she’d recommend, which focuses more on the patient’s relationship with her world than her relationship with the therapist. Saltz thinks Phoebe could use some help coming to terms with what’s happened to her. “It appears as though she hasn’t spent time processing the impact of these traumas on her life,’ Saltz says. “Instead, she’s kept it at arms’ length… The result of this is longing for a mother and fear of abandonment. And she may want to address the impact of that on being able to create new intimacies. It would be valuable for her to better understand and process and integrate it into her life.” By integrating, Saltz basically means acknowledging what happened to her as part of her story, rather than just referencing it occasionally out of the blue as a joke. She says this would help Phoebe bond with new romantic interests. Phoebe has a tendency to bail from relationships when she gets scared. But if she integrated her trauma into her life, she might be able to say: I get scared, and this is why. Perhaps I should figure out why I’m feeling that way, communicate it, and reassess why I want to run away from my relationship withSaltz says that Phoebe is a character who can handle a lot of heartache, and yet still be a kind human who you’d want to be friends with. “It’s amazing that she becomes this normal adult who hangs out with Rachel and sips coffee, when, as a teenager, she seemed to be this other human who was hanging out with pimps and mugging people,” Saltz says. “It’s funny because it’s outrageous.” isn’t the best description of Phoebe, I don’t know what is. In the end, Phoebe's most defining quality was her resilience. Saltz compares her to a dandelion, who can still survive and blossom in harsh environments. And bloom she does. Ultimately, things turn out well for Phoebe, the way they usually do in sitcoms. She gets to marry Paul Rudd, for Pete’s sake.
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