'As I learn more about ADHD, I understand that my daughter did not come equipped with the ability to control her intense emotions. And as I learn more about ADHD, I see that I need to get my own act together if I want her to develop this crucial skill.'
“Can I show you a magic trick?” my 8-year-old daughter asks while bouncing up and down, a huge smile on her face.Suddenly angry, my daughter tenses her whole body. Her eyes squeeze shut with an alarming amount of strength, and a sound begins escaping her mouth that resembles a distant train rapidly approaching. I may even see smoke escaping her ears – just like in the cartoons.
Last year, I probably would have responded to my daughter’s cartoonish tantrum by immediately taking away a privilege — or, worse yet, I may have just yelled. She would have become so upset at 1. missing out on showing me the magic trick, and 2. being treated harshly, that she would have stayed rooted to the spot with loud tears. I would have begun to panic about the bus’s impending arrival, and would have responded with more hurried yelling.
. And as I learn more and more about ADHD, I’m seeing that I need to get my own act together if I want her to develop this crucial skill.I’m still learning, but I’ve found these 8 actions are essential in teaching my daughter emotional control:functions differently from mine. Her emotions flood her brain, and she forgets past consequences, making it difficult for her to behave appropriately in a moment of intense frustration.
I used to think I was right all the time. Now I know she has valid points, too. I don’t always agree and give her what she wants, but once she’s been heard, she doesn’t feel the need to express her frustration so loudly. It’s like she’s been given permission to be disappointed and then move on — and so she does.are like this, but wowzas, my daughter needs explanations.
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