'Are we really not invited? I am asking for your advice and what the 'manners' are here.'
which helps people find the products they need to make life easier, better and more productive. Now with this column,"Asking for a Friend," she's helping people with the advice they need to make life easier, better and more productive. To submit a question, email us atI am the mother of three adult children. My youngest son and I are not as close, which I wish wasn't the case, but it is what it is.
As the mother of the groom — regardless of how close or not close you are — you shouldn't feel like you have to tiptoe around asking whether you’re invited to the wedding. I don’t suggest showing up unannounced or uninvited, and I also don’t suggest assuming you aren’t invited at all. If possible, I would try to meet in person rather than reach out over text. If that’s not possible, try to talk on the phone when both of you are available to give the conversation your time and full attention.
I would definitely think about what you want from this conversation beforehand because it could go so many different ways. If your goal is to get invited to the wedding, then you may need to lower your expectations. Because your son is an adult, he has every right to not invite you or his siblings to his wedding.Is it going to create tension in your relationship and in your family dynamic? Probably.