Letter writer can’t stand husband’s insulting friend who spills wine everywhere.
My husband and I are in our 50s. He has a friend I dislike: She uses humor to disguise insults, and she has no manners.
Once she was visiting and asked to be served wine — wine that she then carelessly sloshed all over our living room walls and area rug. The rug was ruined, and she didn’t even mention replacing it. This is just one example.
I was uncomfortable with this change. I felt bitter at having been relegated to “Mr. and Mrs. Lastname” despite being with my fiancé for years, and the sudden switch to “Mom and Dad” felt like forced familiarity at best, or a power move at worst. I would prefer to call them by their first names, which is the tradition in my family. I talked it over with my husband, who didn't advocate for either side, and I ultimately decided to accept their bid for connection. I began a few emails and texts to them with “Mom” or “Dad.” It felt uncomfortable, but I thought it would bring them more joy than it did me discomfort.
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