Come or don’t come, just don’t insult me like this.
For several years, my wife and I have hosted a large, somewhat elaborate holiday open house, complete with a lot of homemade dishes, champagne, activities and accommodations for children. We’ve often had more than 50 people attend.Miss Manners: He’s a charming man if we just avoid certain topics
We don’t expect people to reciprocate, nor do we expect gifts, although we do accept contributions of champagne or any preferred drink .My complaint isn’t with people who don’t RSVP. Let’s face it: That ship sailed long ago. Despite many people failing to respond, we’ve done a good job over the years of managing our expectations so that we don’t run out of food or end up with gigantic portions of leftovers.
Everyone else Miss Manners hears from considers this a logistical nightmare; that is why etiquette asks that prompt and definitive answers be given. That, and because it is insulting to ignore a hospitable offer.Dear Abby: My miracle was all over social media, but my family is still shunning me Actually, all of these lapses have the same cause: a lack of respect for the host. But the dithering is the easiest one to handle: Just cut if off with holiday wishes and a “We hope you can make it,” or, if you are really annoyed, “Sorry you can’t make it.”
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