Advice from Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin.
My son was invited to a high school dance by a young lady from another school. When he arrived to take group pictures, he was told he had to pony up for the limo and for his share of dinner. He ended up spending nearly $80 to go to a dance with a girl he barely knew.
Has something changed? What should he have said when he was told to pay for his portion of rides and dinner? Why do kids order up limos and dinners they can’t pay for themselves? What’s wrong with a potluck and a ride in Mom’s car?: You, and a lot of single adults who cannot agree on who pays for dates. The problem is that something that should have changed is still hanging on: namely, the notion that gentlemen should pay all dating bills.
Miss Manners is getting away from your high schooler’s situation, but needs to make the point that the person who does the inviting should always pay the bills. If there is a significant disparity in income, the less-endowed person simply chooses less expensive outings.That young lady was just wrong. And her parents were wrong -- and foolish -- to let her think that she could order expensive things and pass on the cost to guests. That is no way to teach a girl self-respect.
Miss Manners appreciates the courtesies you are teaching your son, and hopes that his next date will have received similar advice.One of my pet peeves these days is when waitstaff at restaurants remove a diner’s plate before the other diner at the table is finished.
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