It’s been five years since the wedding, can this letter writer send the thank you notes now?
I’m a terrible procrastinator. I have procrastinated sending thank-you letters for multiple years for multiple events . The worst offense is our wedding, five years ago.
Is it ever too late to send a thank-you letter? Could I send a single thank-you now, for the gifts and attendance to all these events?better be a good one. Being a procrastinator is not a decent excuse, and Miss Manners is not going to let you off the hook by declaring a statute of limitations. What you need to atone for is not postponement so much as blatantly apparent ingratitude. So you need to name and praise your use of each of these presents and also express appreciation for your benefactors’ continued thoughtfulness and generosity over the years. Yes, this will be a lot of work. But when you do not pay a debt when it is due, it accrues interest.A few months ago, I was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer.
Still, you do want to show your appreciation. Miss Manners reminds you that some of those kind people will surely have asked what they can do to help. One or more of them could make your task easier by taking dictation from you to write on your behalf.I have noticed that mourners now applaud at funerals after a memorial speech. Maybe I am old-school, but I do not remember this being done until lately. I would personally prefer no applause.
So Miss Manners agrees with you, but sees little hope of convincing others that thoughtful silence can be more meaningful than noise.Miss Manners: Best not to ask why a guest said ‘no’Taylor Swift named a song ‘Clara Bow.’ The 1920s film star is having a moment.
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