(He) hit on me when we were at dinner a few months ago.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: A good friend’s husband hit on me when we were at dinner a few months ago. He always shows up when our group of female friends goes to dinner. The man is rude to waitstaff and picks his teeth at the dinner table.
I will no longer tolerate being around this despicable human. Please give me your thoughts; I do not want to lose these friends. GENTLE READER: Couples are, by rule, treated as a social unit. That does not mean it is impossible to pry spouses apart in all situations, but this husband has already ignored the most obvious way to do so -- namely, stipulating that none of the men were invited.
By being applied universally, that rule was meant to avoid hurt feelings -- the kind that inevitably follow when one husband is accused of bad manners or bad morals. Since you cannot, politely, make that first accusation, this leaves you with two courses of action. First, Miss Manners suggests you remind the group that everyone had agreed to a ladies-only event. If that does not work, you may have to have a private, and more serious, talk with your good friend -- one that may not retain her friendship.Miss Manners: I wish I had done better handling an awkward situationMiss Manners: Visiting family member opens the fridge and it’s too familiarIf you purchase a product or register for an account through a link on our site, we may receive compensation.
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