A reader writes to Dear Miss Manners about a friend of her husband who repeatedly invites other people to their home without prior notice or invitation. The reader finds this behavior unsafe and rude, while her husband believes it is a normal practice in their culture. Dear Miss Manners agrees with the reader and advises against inviting this friend over again.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I have been having an argument for days now about something one of his friends did.
We moved to a new apartment, and said friend has been here twice. Both times, he spent an hour or two with my husband, and then went outside to meet up with people he invited over. They do not actually come in, they just stay outside chatting, but it infuriates me that he is giving out our address to people whom 1. I do not know, and 2. we did not invite.
My husband says that where they are both from, it’s normal for people to do that, and it is not a big deal. I say it’s unsafe and also very rude. This last time he was here, he also arrived three hours later than he said he would, at night. I find him a very rude guest, and we have agreed not to have him over anymore.
Do you think I am overreacting, since these people he randomly invites to my home stay outside and don’t stay for a long time?It seems odd to Miss Manners that he would otherwise invite people over to the outside of yours. In any case, she finds him an ill-mannered guest and your decision to cease inviting him a sound [email protected] you purchase a product or register for an account through a link on our site, we may receive compensation.
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