Struggling with a strained relationship with grandchildren and feeling excluded by the future sister-in-law, the author seeks advice on navigating these complex family dynamics.
For the past 10 years, I have consistently been there for my grandchildren (now 18 and 16) and my son and daughter-in-law. However, over the last two years, things have shifted. While I have sent cards, invitations to events, and weekly texts, most go unanswered, leaving me feeling as if they are entitled. Recently, I sent a text gently reminding them of basic social courtesies: responding when spoken to, acknowledging texts and cards, and respecting family ties.
This seemingly harmless message appears to have caused a rift between my daughter-in-law and me. She has since restricted my communication with the grandchildren, claiming they are too busy to respond. My son has become unresponsive, leaving me uncertain about his stance on the situation. My daughter-in-law, a helicopter parent involved in every aspect of her children's lives, seems to have been harboring resentment. Unless my son is secretly working for a government agency, he needs to engage and help resolve this family issue. I suggest reaching out to him directly, expressing a desire to clear the air. It's likely that my daughter-in-law's outburst stemmed from a long-standing pattern of grievances and perceived slights. Text communication can easily be misinterpreted, and my reminder might have come across as me disciplining her children, crossing a line for her. The way forward is a face-to-face conversation with both my son and daughter-in-law. I want to understand if they feel I overstep or disrespect their parenting and express my hope for maintaining a relationship with my grandchildren. There's a clash between my expectations and their family dynamics. I need to communicate openly and establish clear boundaries for everyone involved.Now, I'm seeking advice on handling my future sister-in-law. She constantly takes pictures of family and friends but always seems to exclude me. At church, she wanted a picture of my fiancé and her mother, understandable as she only wanted them in the photo. Even my future mother-in-law suggested including me, but she declined. While it's acceptable to some extent, this isn't an isolated incident. Her daughter recently had a baby, and I requested to be included in the baby shower, but I was overlooked and the invitation never materialized. I did send a gift afterward, although it sat for over a month since I wasn't invited. At their mother's birthday party last year, she photographed everyone except me, although there were 75 people, making it somewhat plausible. However, I'm unsure how to handle being repeatedly excluded. My fiancé seems oblivious to her behavior and doesn't mention it. While I understand that others' actions often reflect their character, it still makes me feel left out. Do you have any suggestions?First, I recognize that feeling excluded is valid and deserves attention. However, I am curious about the significance of your future sister-in-law's inclusion. Perhaps she is the designated family photographer, and not including you in the photos feels like an erasure or a devaluation of your relationship. Or maybe you simply yearn for her approval. These are valid feelings, but likely to be addressed more effectively through further self-reflection. Is the rest of the family welcoming to you, or is your fiancé's sister's behavior a reflection of the entire family dynamic? If you feel shunned by the family as a whole, it's crucial to discuss this with your fiancé. Even if it's just about his sister, communicating with him is a good starting point. His obliviousness can be isolating, so bring him into the conversation.Even if he dismisses it as nothing to worry about, he should take your feelings seriously and strive to make you feel included at future gatherings.
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