A well-known South African author told me how he and his friends accidentally came to the realisation that they were all implicated in rape culture, writes Eusebius.
It is not the intention to titillate by framing it that plainly. It is important to be accurate as a matter of justice for victims and survivors. The full crime must be acknowledged. It is important, grammatically, to use the active voice, with a clear reference to a male agent who acted wrongly, rather than using passive voice formations — “a sexual violation took place” — so that we describe the wrongdoer and the wrong before we reference the person who was harmed.
It is false to think that only poor men or working-class men or formally uneducated men or men working on construction sites are misogynists. Even men in suits who sound like allies in the fight for gender justice could be perpetrators of violence against women. No men are inherently incapable of violence.
Third, the author's story underlies our collective culpable silence as men. The confessions didn't lead to self-examination, self-rebuke or collective mutual accountability. The confessions led to “awkward” silence.One of the hardest things to do when working with boys and men is to build a so-called safety container, a psychological space within which honest, vulnerable and productive conversation can happen, and healing work can be done.
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