He says he’ll get a job and a place when he finishes school.
Just as we are about to be empty nesters and move on with fun plans in our lives, our oldest son gets his girlfriend pregnant. They only have part-time jobs and this is his last year of college and she just finished getting some type of certificate for her career.
They both were on a good track. How could this happen now and what do we do now? They want her to stay with us while he finishes his last year because her parents are moving out of state. He says he’ll get a job and a place when he finishes because he already has some interested companies where he’ll be interning. We don’t know what to do. Should we let her go with her parents and come back when he graduates? We like her, and they are a good couple together for three years but technically she’s not our child to keep.Many parents look forward to reviving the relationship and getting out more when the children leave the nest. Sometimes they are prepared to have the kids back after graduation but are enjoying their freedom while they can. It looks like your freedom is trying to be interrupted before it even begins.How did this happen and what do you? Well, we know how it happened but why now is the concern. What you can do is work with her parents. It’s been a few years so hopefully you know each other and have a good rapport. She can move with the parents for the first few months then return in the last trimester. It’s not ideal but it will give you a little time to yourselves then he’ll be near when she has the baby. Hopefully, he’ll graduate, get a good job and get his own place. Maybe you’re not ready now to be grandparents, but once the baby is here, you’ll be going goo goo gaa gaa.