Her dad and I are in a stalemate over this.
I am a gay woman, single mom by choice with two daughters, ages 6 and 1. Their biological father is a gay friend of mine, “David,” who lives nearby with his longtime partner, “Frank.” Frank was on board with our family plans from the beginning and is “Dad No. 2” to the girls. There have been some hiccups over the past few years, but we worked well together as a family—until recently—and the girls are happy, confident, and kind kids.
Frank had an affair with “Marco,” and the ensuing ups and downs have absorbed most of David and Frank’s time, leaving little for the girls. I thought the relationship was going to end, but now it seems that Frank and David have decided to stay together and are now in a triad relationship with Marco. I don’t think it’s a fair and functional triad; there is lots of fighting, drama, threats that one or the other will move out, etc.
One more thing: Why are the dads and Marco pushing a relationship with your eldest? Is it because the youngest is too young to do “fun” stuff? I just found that curious.