I feel like it's time to tell my MIL the truth about how we plan to approach our children's faith.
First of all, congratulations on this new adventure of parenthood that you are about to embark on! It is a journey that not only surprises you about how deeply you can love another small being, but one that will also strengthen your relationship with yourself. There is another relationship however, that will come to the forefront during this time and be tested — and that is the central family relationship with your partner.
You have said that you discussed the plans for children with your husband even before you decided to have kids. So both of you are clearly on the same page, and that’s a good thing because it would be exponentially more difficult if you weren’t.It’s now your husband’s responsibility to stand up for you—and your plan for your family—to his mother. At the end of the day, the decisions for your daughter are made by you and him, and his mother needs to fall in line.
You said that your husband hates starting difficult conversations with his mother, but parenthood will not only ask buthim to step into a bolder version of himself. We choose our partners because we want them to make us a priority, and we want to know we can count on them for support. When we lack that support, the relationship suffers because of it.My suggestion is to talk to your husband about making your plans clear to his mom.
Your pep talk may not alleviate the stress she’s feeling, but hopefully it will make her understand that the quality of her life has very little to do with her grades in high school Algebra. I know it may seem like you would be overstepping by talking to her parents, so you don’t have to do that. Instead keep reminding her that she’ll be just fine if she focuses on her mental health and mixing in some fun in the process.
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