Advice from Annie Lane.
Many of you wrote in regarding the newly widowed woman who stopped receiving invitations to couples’ gatherings. A great number of you shared similar experiences. Below are a few letters that reflect this.: The invisibility you feel often grows in proportion to how insecure other women are. If they perceive you as attractive or as a threat to their marriages, you’ll quickly find yourself being treated as if you don’t exist. This happens to newly divorced women as well.
After my husband left me for someone else, our mutual friends stopped inviting me to their gatherings -- only inviting him. One woman, “Sophie,” came to my dental practice with her boys for treatment. After I finished their procedures, she started showing me photos of a party she’d hosted the previous weekend.
I casually asked if my ex had been invited, and she replied, “yes.” At that moment, I charged her the full price for the treatment and told her how cruel her actions were. I also informed her to find another practitioner. It felt really good to stand up for myself! I never saw her again, but her boys were clearly shocked by her behavior.: I read the letter from the woman who was recently widowed and dinner invitations from friends suddenly stopped. One of the reasons that the invitations stopped is that she, whether or not she knows it, has become a threat to the other marriages. The women are concerned that she will “go after their husbands.”I have been a widow for over 30 years.
United States Latest News, United States Headlines
Similar News:You can also read news stories similar to this one that we have collected from other news sources.
Dear Annie: Advice for grandmothers who feel left out of the familyMy mother always told me that when your son marries, he will be more connected with the wife’s family. I have found that it is true.
Read more »
Dear Annie: I’m still grieving the death of my former daughter-in-lawIn today's Dear Annie column, Annie Lane offers some advice to a reader who wants to know if she should pursue a relationship with her grandchildren's half-brother, whom her son's former wife delivered shortly before dying.
Read more »
Dear Annie: Our house and neighborhood aren’t the only things falling apartIn today's Dear Annie column, as she watches her home and neighborhood deteriorate, an elderly wife and mother is tired of fighting with her husband and son about selling the house and moving.
Read more »
Dear Annie: Hoarder mom wants to move, but won’t throw anything awayI’m not interested in fighting with her over the house cleanout -- been there, done that.
Read more »
Dear Annie: I cut ties with my sister and am so much happier nowSometimes, family members who choose to disengage have valid reasons for doing so.
Read more »
Dear Annie: I’ve had a falling out with my childhood friend over moneyNo matter how hard life gets, I never ask for help, and this is a very harsh reminder why.
Read more »