Annie Lane shares some thoughts on a reader's upcoming birthday and reasons their sisters might not visit in today's Dear Annie column.
Even though they gave their sisters a year's notice, today's Dear Annie reader is concerned both sisters will not travel to celebrate the big 5-0.I’m turning 50 this year and plan on having a large party. Last year at my birthday, I told both my sisters that I was having this party and expected them to come. They both agreed to come.
I currently live in Tennessee and thought that telling my sisters a year in advance would be adequate notice. They both live in Pennsylvania. In the seven-plus years that I have moved away from Pennsylvania, neither of my sisters has visited me or even made an effort to visit. When my sister lived in Japan, I went over and visited her despite the financial struggle.
The date of my party is quickly approaching, and one of my sisters has told me she will not be coming. The other sister has not responded to me. I’m absolutely devastated that my sisters will not come to this milestone birthday and at a complete loss that they seem so indifferent to my hurt feelings. How can I make them see how hurtful their behavior is? -- At a Loss in TennesseeFirst things first, put yourself in both your sisters’ shoes. They might be incredibly busy with work or with family. They might be too financially strained to afford air travel right now.
The next step would be to communicate your feelings to them. Tell them how much you value their love and friendship. When you come from a place of love, rather than a place of anger or resentment, they will be able to see things from your side.
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