A reader is seeking advice on how to best support her brother who struggles with alcohol abuse.
My brother, “David,” has been struggling with alcohol for years, and it’s starting to take a toll on our family.
Recently, he lost his job and moved back in with our parents, who are both retired and not in the best health. They feel obligated to help him, but it’s causing a lot of stress and financial strain.Whenever I try to talk to him about getting help or finding a job, he becomes defensive and angry. My parents don’t want to push him too hard because they’re afraid of making things worse.
How can I encourage David to seek help without causing more conflict? Is there a way to support my parents while also addressing the impact his behavior is having on the family?Start by having a conversation with David; it’s important that he knows you love and support him but that you are also worried about him.
Suggest professional resources, like counseling or support groups, and offer to help him find these services.Encourage them to set boundaries to protect their well-being. You might suggest they attend support groups for families dealing with addiction, such as Al-Anon, where they can find guidance and support.“How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?” is out now! Annie Lane’s second anthology -- featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation -- is available as a paperback and e-book. VisitIf you purchase a product or register for an account through a link on our site, we may receive compensation.
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