Should I bring it up with my partner? Should I keep attending family events despite feeling left out?
I’ve been in a relationship for almost four years now, and while things with my partner are great, I’ve been feeling increasingly frustrated by how his family treats me -- specifically when it comes to birthdays. His family has this tradition where they celebrate every member’s birthday with gifts, cards and a special acknowledgment. However, despite being part of his life for nearly four years, I’ve never received any of that recognition on my own birthday.
To make matters worse, since I’ve been dating my partner, other people have come and gone in the family’s social circle -- some of whom they’ve only known for a short time -- and they get the full birthday treatment. Cakes, presents, cards, lunches ... it’s like they go all out for everyone else, but for me? Nothing. It’s incredibly hurtful, and I can’t help but feel ignored, overlooked and, frankly, unwanted.
I could really use some advice. How do I navigate this situation? How can I address this without causing a rift? -- Feeling ForgottenThe best way to approach this situation is through an honest conversation with your partner. Let them know how hurt and left out you feel. And first, happy birthday! Everyone deserves to feel acknowledged on their birthday by close friends, family and especially their partner.
Relying on external factors to solve internal issues is not a sustainable solution. Her jealousy seems to stem from several sources: unresolved resentment, feelings of unworthiness and, most significantly, low self-esteem. True happiness and confidence will only come when she confronts and works through these internal struggles. No perfect relationship, job, friend group or vacation can resolve this for her.
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