Advice from Annie Lane.
I will be inheriting a modest sum of money and want to gift some of it to my two married children. I also want to gift some money to my daughter’s two young children to be used for future educational needs. My son and his wife don’t have children and will likely not have any in the future. They lost beautiful twins born prematurely many years ago.
I want to be fair and compassionate with the distribution of money. If I gift the same amount to my two children and a smaller amount to our two grandchildren, do you think my son will feel the distribution is unfair? I realize the inheritance is mine to do with as I please, but I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. We are all kind and level-headed people.Your thoughtfulness and consideration for everyone’s emotions show what a caring grandma you are.
Gifting the same amount to each child, plus additional funds earmarked for your grandkids’ education, is a perfectly fair approach. But because your son and daughter-in-law experienced such a profound loss, it’s wise to consider how this might affect them emotionally. If you want, you could contribute something unique to them as well -- a trip, for example -- to show extra consideration.: I don’t even know where to begin. I’ve been seeing this girl “Angie” for eight months now.
But now, I get yelled at for basically everything I say. Like today, I called her for the first time at 2:30 p.m. and she answered the phone saying, “What do you want?” I ask what she’s up to and she says, “It’s none of your business” and then goes, “I’m done talking now.” This is a typical conversation for us.Annie, I never cheated on this girl. I have always treated her well.
As for not wanting anyone else, you’ll never know until you start looking. You’d be amazed at what a clean break and a little bit of time can do.Annie Lane offers common-sense solutions to everyday problems. She's firm, funny and sympathetic, echoing the style of her biggest inspiration, Ann Landers. She lives outside Manhattan with her husband, two kids and two dogs. When not writing, she devotes her time to play dates and Play-Doh. Write her: dearannie@creators.
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