While I’m happy for her family to grow, I can’t help but worry it will detract from my fiance and me.
I’m not sure what to do. Do I keep her as a bridesmaid, one week away from delivery? She might be late, but there’s also a chance she could go into labor before or during our wedding.
Can I replace her so she won’t have to worry about the “what-ifs”? Her husband is a groomsman, so this decision will affect everyone. Should I leave her in and chance it? It breaks my heart to think they might not be able to attend at all. I’m just so overwhelmed, and this is adding to the stress of planning my wedding. Please give me some advice.Talk to your about-to-be sister-in-law. It would be difficult to impossible to fit a bridesmaid’s dress on someone whose girth is growing constantly.
Offer her the opportunity to fill another role during the ceremony -- perform a reading, perhaps. Then be sure to have a backup for her. To do this would not be an insult; it may save your sanity as the big day for each of you approaches.I have four nieces with families who live near me. I see none of them on holidays. I am never invited to spend time with them. They have children who have children, and I understand that they would be involved with each other.
I hint to them in cards, “Hope to see you over the holidays” or, “Would love to see the great-grandbabies.” My partner is a transgender woman, but I am assured this doesn’t bother them. I miss them and feel left out of the family even though we email. I am their deceased father’s only sibling left. Should I be more aggressive, or just stop trying? I have other nieces and nephews who live far away and are more interested in me as a human being and an aunt. They say they would like to be with me and love me.It should be apparent to you that these nieces are ignoring your hints. Could you visit with them in a public place -- neither your house nor theirs? It’s worth asking.
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