He guilted me in his last letter. How should I word my response?
DEAR ONE-SIDED:
You and this person are pen pals, nothing more. If you enjoy the correspondence, ignore the attempt at a guilt trip if that’s what the comment was intended to be. You and his sisters are acquaintances, not friends. Their lack of communication with you should have sent that message. I cannot understand why you should chase after them.
Stop nursing grievances. Concentrate on the people in your life who actually reciprocate your friendship and you will be much happier.I have been married for almost three years to an incredible man. It’s the third marriage for both of us. I have an older daughter, and he has two older children -- a son and a daughter. Last year, they both welcomed their own children.
I’m not sure where I fit in when it comes to being a grandparent. Friends of mine said I am a grandma. I say, “By default, I am a grandma.” My friends also said instead of calling me “Grandma,” the grandkids could call me something else to differentiate between their biological grandmas and me. I recently signed a birthday card for one of the grandkids and wasn’t sure if I should sign just my name “Louise” or “Grandma Louise,” so I settled on “G-ma Louise.
Because of COVID, we hadn’t been able to visit much with the grandkids. However, when it comes to gifts, I’m usually the one picking them out and, in some cases, my husband and I split the cost. In my heart, I feel they are my grandkids, but I don’t think my husband’s kids view me that way. AM I a grandma?You are as much a grandma as you would like to be, and to the extent the children’s parents will allow it.
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