He posted a message that read: “Happy Anniversary. Love you and miss you. 52 years today.”
My husband, “Randall,” was a widower when we met. His wife, “Sylvia,” had passed away in November 2010. We got married in October 2015. I recently was shocked to discover that Randall has kept Sylvia’s Facebook page open, supposedly so his grandchildren can send her messages on her birthday or anytime they feel like it.
Last September, he posted a message that read: “Happy Anniversary. Love you and miss you. 52 years today.” When I read it, I realized that, in his heart, he still feels married to her. Am I wrong for feeling that way?I don’t think you are wrong, but please understand that some people don’t completely get over the death of a loved one, and your husband may be one of them. It’s not that unusual, if my Facebook is any example.
If you and Randall have a good marriage, I suggest you develop a sense of humor about it. Sylvia is not a threat to you unless you make her one. Knowing that may lighten your load.I buy pet food from a small local pet shop. I’m a regular customer and have been on a first-name basis with the owner, “Alicia,” for several years. When I went to buy my dog’s food the other day, she was wearing a scarf to cover her head. She has always had shoulder-length hair. It was obvious that she’s ill.
The next time I go there, should I continue to act like I don’t notice? Should I ask Alicia if she’s ill? I felt uncomfortable pretending not to notice. However, I feel it would be intrusive to say something. Please advise.If Alicia wants to discuss her medical condition with you, she will allude to it. If she does, listen to her and offer a supportive comment. Many people seem unable to restrain themselves from asking inappropriate questions, however well-intentioned.
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