Dear Abby gives advice to a husband who is concerned that his brother-in-law is being abusive.
I live on the bottom floor of a duplex with my wife. My brother-in-law, his wife and their two sons, ages 4 and 2, are upstairs. Since the 2-year-old was born, he’s been very rambunctious and fussy. I consider my BIL a good parent overall, but for a while now, I hear him blow up, scream, curse and shout at the younger child. I don’t think it’s healthy.ruled by intimidation. I am also a school counselor. The 4-year-old has a pronounced speech impediment that I’m hoping the school will help with.
I wouldn’t dare to say anything to my BIL or SIL. I’m just worried about the boys. Will they be OK? Please, let me know what to do. We all want my nephews to be well, but I can’t blur the line between counselor and aunt.Nothing will change unless you find the courage to speak out. Involve your wife in this. Both of you should talk to your brother-in-law andabout how being intimidated from an early age affected your life.
I have my own outside interests, but I’m trying to figure out where I stand in his life. I think I’m OK with a friendship with him. We’re both retired. For the record, I have no desire to date, nor do I want to put myself in that position. I dislike being out by myself after dark. Advice, please?If you want to know where you stand in your ex-husband’s life,From my long-distance perspective, the two of you have four decades-plus of mutual experiences, and it’s a relationship that has value.
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