Now he’s acting all buddy-buddy. Can I reveal my contempt for him?
During my tenure, my three much younger colleagues married and started families. Due to the inevitable trials of raising kids, planned, unplanned and often simultaneous absences became commonplace, which left me to run the department alone.
Rather than address the matter in the context of firm productivity, our boss informed each of my co-workers that I had complained about their chronic absenteeism, drawing charges that I, a middle-aged male with no children, was “insensitive” to their familial obligations.I never confronted my boss, and he was never aware I had any knowledge of his manipulation. He now contacts me monthly to feign concern for my health and tell me how much I am missed, all of which is disingenuous.
If you are still in the working world, refrain from venting about your contempt. Simply express that you prefer he not call you again. If he asks why, you would be within your rights to tell him you know he violated your confidence and that is why you left the firm.We met for dinner a few times with our husbands, and everything seemed fine. She keeps asking us to take a trip with them, but I don’t feel we know them well enough to spend that much time with them.
I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I don’t want to encourage her friendship, either. Should I leave it alone, or say something more?: Listen to your intuition. I don’t think you need to do more than you are already doing, which is distancing yourself.
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