I am tired, disgusted and ashamed of being so out of control.
None of my clothes fit. Every social situation is unbelievably overwhelming. I have tried diet after diet. Some work, but nothing sticks long term. I have removed all the mirrors in my house so I won’t have to look at myself.
My family and friends are amazing, loving and supportive. My world would be nothing without them. How can I mentally wire my jaw shut so I don’t shove every piece of food I see down my gullet?You are far from the only person who has used food to mask emotional pain. There is truth in the saying, “It’s not what you’re eating, but what’s eating you that may be the problem.”
Two trusted organizations may be able to help you conquer this. The first is the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network . RAINN has been mentioned in my column many times. When you contact this group, it could connect with counseling tailored to survivors of sexual abuse and help you to deal with any lingering issues from your childhood trauma.
The second organization is Overeaters Anonymous . OA is a support group for people who can’t control their eating, based on the principles of AA. When you make contact, you will find them to be sympathetic and supportive -- there is no judging, weighing or shaming. It may give you the moral and emotional support you need to regain control. I’m rooting for you.A lonely friend who lives several hours away wants to visit me for a few days.
I don’t consider us close friends, and I have never invited him to stay. I prefer he not visit, mainly due to my wife’s concerns. Is there a way to get him to stop asking without losing his friendship? I suppose I could live without the friendship, but I don’t want to hurt him.Tell this pushy individual you and your wife “cannot accommodate” a houseguest. Whatever the reason may be, it’s the truth. Keep repeating it as often as necessary.
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