I want it to be respectful for the family’s sake, but I’ll be happy to be free of him.
A couple of weeks ago, my 17-year-old daughter broke up with “Matt,” her boyfriend of a year and seven months. My husband and I are sad because Matt had become a part of our family. We included him in vacations and holidays with us.
We also became friends with his parents and shared a couple of holidays with them. I have not communicated with Matt’s parents since the breakup, and I feel horrible. I’m not sure what’s proper etiquette in this situation. Should I reach out to Matt’s mom or just leave it alone? I don’t have hard feelings toward them, but then again, my daughter broke up with Matt and not vice versa. Let me know what you think.Young love doesn’t always last forever, which can be a good thing. I see no harm in waiting a few more weeks until things cool down and then reaching out to Matt’s mother. Tell her you are sorry about the breakup and hope it doesn’t spell the end of your relationship with her, which you have very much enjoyed. Her response will tell you if she feels the same.My daughter is 38 and still can’t forgive me for being an alcoholic when she was young. Will I never be forgiven?I don’t want to leave this world and not be good with her. It’s killing me. I need my baby girl back.You didn’t mention what personality changes you experienced when your daughter was young. Whether you were abusive or emotionally absent, the truth is she “lost” her mother during that period. You may need your baby girl back, but that baby is long gone. If you are not in Alcoholics Anonymous, you should definitely attend some meetings to see how other parents cope with their loss.