I am a quiet person who doesn’t like confrontation or making others feel bad, so I generally just nod my head or listen without saying anything.
I sometimes dread seeing her because I never know if she is going to bring up politics. Do you have a polite, nonconfrontational way of making her stop?Yes, I do: Quit nodding your head and establish some ground rules with Sissy. TELL HER that you love her company but that the pejorative political comments must stop. Make clear that you want politics off the table when she visits because the subject is so upsetting, and that if she cannot comply, you will be seeing her less often.
Standing up for yourself is not being confrontational. You are long overdue for that brief chat. If you cannot do this, then stop blaming her, and be prepared for more -- much more -- of the same.How do I keep my frugal friend from meddling? I enjoy her friendship, but our lives are not the same. I married a well-to-do man, and I haven’t had to work, although I’m still careful about what I spend, and I try to find bargains on food, clothing, kids’ items and travel.
An example: We went grocery shopping and, when I tried to buy a turkey, she went on and on about how much money I could save by catching the sale at the next store. If I mention that my husband and I are going out to dinner, she insists on telling me how much money I could save if I cooked more often at home. It is endless.
I have told her in so many words I don’t need advice about money and, while I admire her thriftiness, I do just fine by myself. I try to steer the conversations away from these subjects, but it’s hard to give her the details of what I do without getting some retort that her way is better. I rarely ask for her advice; she just gives it.
United States Latest News, United States Headlines
Similar News:You can also read news stories similar to this one that we have collected from other news sources.
Dear Abby: I cheated on my husband and brought home an STIDear Abby advises a woman who feels guilty for cheating on her husband and a man who misses his best friend.
Read more »
Dear Abby: I cheated on my partner in VegasDear Abby advises a woman who cheated on her partner during a trip to Las Vegas, a wife dealing with her husband’s cancer, and someone who’s sick of being eavesdropped on.
Read more »
Dear Abby: I think I can hang out with ex-fling, but his friends don’tWhen he visits, I am excluded, which means I can’t hang out with my best friend.
Read more »
Dear Abby: My sister keeps attacking me for my politicsDear Abby advises a woman whose having political arguments with her sister, and another woman who is having money disputes with her friend.
Read more »
Dear Abby: My best friend unfriended me twice. Can we start over?He never got the full story, only the part that made me look bad.
Read more »
Dear Abby: I had a one-night stand with my best friend’s husband’s best friend and now things are awkwardI started having feelings for this guy ... I guess you could say I was hung up on him.
Read more »