A reader writes about issues that they're having involving a loved ones pet.
A month ago, I reconnected with a woman, “Fran,” I have known since seventh grade. We are both divorced with grown children and live 90 minutes apart. We have enjoyed hour upon hour of telephone conversations and have spent two weekends together. We have been very emotionally intimate, but not sexually, by choice, as to not distort the “purity” of our relationship.
My problem is, Fran has a large, high-energy dog that has free roam of her home . “Goliath” travels with her virtually everywhere she goes, including when she visits me. Goliath is good-natured and extremely fond of me, but I don’t have pets, nor do I care to have her dog jump onto the furniture and sleep with us in my bed. She thinks it’s cute, but Goliath sheds black hairthe place, including in my bed .
I care deeply for Fran and will likely be in an exclusive, meaningful relationship with her for a long time. But I don’t want her dog to be a reason for anger and frustration. How do I politely “enforce” any restrictions on her beloved pet without possibly creating friction between us over Goliath “just being a dog”? --home is to have the conversation you were afraid to have with Fran the first time she and Goliath came to visit.
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