My daughter has agreed to apply to be an RA for her junior year, but since then, she has become despondent.
She says all her friends are moving off-campus and she’ll be “stuck” in a freshman dorm. I am sympathetic to her concerns since the social aspect of college life is important. On the other hand, my husband and I are making tremendous sacrifices so she can go to her dream school.
She’s generally outgoing, likes socializing and is temperamentally well-suited to an RA position. So, to be completely honest, I’m angry that she’s viewing this opportunity as a burden rather than an opportunity to significantly improve her and our family’s financial situation by taking a job that could be rewarding.
Am I wrong to ask my daughter to apply for this position? If we were a wealthy family, I would never ask, but we are not. I’m afraid she will face greater sacrifices down the road if she enters the work world with substantial debt.Although your daughter is enrolled in a pricey college, she appears to be lacking in financial acumen. If she were more mature, she would recognize that this job would benefit your entire family.
Of course socializing in college is important, but taking the RA position won’t entirely preclude that. Being an RA would give her valuable leadership experience, which could help her in the future. Many graduates remember with great fondness the resident assistants they had in college and the guidance they provided.My mother-in-law constantly calls my husband and is always reminding him not to forget her.
I’m tired of it, and my husband won’t put a stop to it. He says she’s his mother and he needs to respect her. I feel like even after all these years she hasn’t cut the cord, and he is still attached. Any advice?Your mother-in-law appears to be insecure and to crave more attention from her son. This has nothing to do with you, so my advice is to ignore any message that isn’t meant for you, and try to be less critical.
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