He’s the great-nephew of the man who jilted my great-aunt at the altar in the 1970s after she tried to trap him.
My boyfriend of three years recently proposed. The issue is he’s the great-nephew of the man who jilted my great-aunt at the altar in the 1970s. My aunt dated his great-uncle for financial reasons, which she has admitted. She tried to ensure he would stay with her by “baby trapping” him and telling him he had to marry her. He agreed until the day arrived -- and he didn’t show.
This shouldn’t be important to the current situation because it was decades ago, and I barely know my great-aunt. She didn’t even know my fiance’s name until the most recent family reunion when I mentioned our engagement and my soon-to-be last name. She freaked out and demanded he leave her house! She told me not to marry him, and said his family was all the same.
I don’t like my great-aunt much, but after this controversy, her children and her siblings are threatening to shun me if I marry him. The wedding is in five months, and I’m torn. Family is important to me, and while I’m not close to her, I made it a mission to be closer to her kids and relatives as I grew older. I know what happened to her hurt her a lot, but I feel her demand is outrageous. What should I do? Should I postpone the wedding?Let me get this straight.
The decision you now must make is whether you want to break an engagement to your fiance or cave in to the emotional blackmail of your ethically challenged aunt. I know what I would do. This may be your chance to “break the curse.”Dear Abby: My 60-year-old husband is hanging out with women half his age
After a social occasion, I come home and obsess about what I did or didn’t say. Did I act appropriately? I worry and keep doing these “reviews” in my head. It’s painful. The social occasion can be lunch with a friend, a phone call or a party. I’ve done this for years, and it’s exhausting. Why do I do this? More to the point, how can I stop?While I am not allowed to diagnose an illness in any state of the Union, speaking as a “talented” amateur, it seems you have a nasty case of social anxiety.
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