Robert has cheated on me more than 20 times in the past, with an almost-encounter happening as recently as three months ago.
I have been with my boyfriend, “Robert,” for 10 years. We live together, and he helps me raise my preteen daughter. Recently, Robert has decided that he is “entitled to privacy.” He has locked me out of his computer and phone and refuses to share his passwords.
Some history: Robert has cheated on me more than 20 times in the past, with an almost-encounter happening as recently as three months ago, thwarted only after I saw some text messages on his phone. Last week, I discovered that he used the search term “sex” on a website that’s notorious for facilitating random hookups. I was furious.
Robert is now using my reaction to justify locking me out of his devices. I am finally putting my foot down and telling him this is the red line for me -- if he doesn’t allow me unrestricted access to his devices, I can no longer be in a relationship with him. He is still refusing, so we are now at an impasse. Am I crazy?You ARE crazy if you stay in a relationship with someone who has not only cheated on you more than 20 times in the past, but is now hell-bent on continuing.
It’s embarrassing to be identified as something we’re not. There’s also no comeback to correct the misidentification that wouldn’t make the situation worse. My plea is that everyone be treated courteously, without making assumptions. What do you think, Abby?I agree with your sentiments. It is presumptuous to assume that because two people of the same sex are socializing that they’re a couple.
DEAR ABBY: My daughter went to visit her in-laws with her husband and two children. Her mother-in-law is an amazing cook. While they were having dinner, my daughter said to her, “This is so delicious, I would love to have the recipe.” Her mother-in-law replied, “My recipes are for family only.” My daughter was deeply hurt, and their relationship has never been the same.
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