Plus: Can I bring one present and have the four of them compete for it?
: Forty years ago, my husband had an affair that left me emotionally damaged. I took him back when he asked, and we went on with our lives — well,Even today, if I hear a song from that time or her name, I freak out. When I remember how he told me he loved her, something inside me dies.He treats me well and says “I love you” every day, yet the cut is still fresh and deep. Any suggestions?After 40 years of torturing yourself, the memory of your husband’s transgression has become ingrained.
Our son continues to live here, and he pays no rent or anything else toward our living expenses. He literally lives the life of a teenage boy, although he’s 48. I pay all the household bills. He has a job and makes more than I do .Our other four children are all successful, own their own homes and live the lives of responsible adults. Do I need a lawyer, or perhaps a backbone?: You may need both. Although it’s late, consider also engaging the services of a licensed marriage and family therapist.
I am close to all of them. This joint celebration has been a ritual for the past three years, and presents are expected. I’m considering buying one decent present and having it raffled off among the four. What do you think? By the way, this also happens a few months later for her husband and son.
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