I would like to be friends, or – if that possibility has been squandered – not make things untenably awkward or unpleasant for either of us.
I met someone in real life, and I asked – via Messenger – if she would like to hang out. The icons on Messenger say she has not seen the message. Although that may mean she saw the preview of the message as a push notification but didn’t read the whole thing. The part that shows up in the preview should get the idea across.
If I contacted her, I might say that I had sent a message through Messenger, and she didn’t appear to have seen it, and if she hasn’t seen it, she might want to look, and if she has seen it, then I’m sorry for this superfluous second message, which she can ignore. Or maybe that’s pushing too much? For better or worse, here we are in the present, where our devices will beep and boop and notify us of far too many things. The information you’re getting from Facebook is all relatively benign, but it’s prompting you to put together a story in your head. That story is causing you unnecessary worry.
It’s good to have healthy boundaries with potential friends, but you don’t have to be as concerned about making a misstep with this particular person.
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