Plus: Please tell them cremated remains aren’t like in the movies.
Asking Eric: People I barely know tell me to be friendly to my ex. I don’t see why I should.Asking Eric: Is it ethical to cut him from my will because he’s in a cult?Her sister-in-law asked me if I could be the godmother of her child, which I agreed to.
But ever since I agreed, I’ve been involved more in their family drama. Recently, the sister-in-law vented to me about some family drama, and also told me that she and my friend had been talking badly behind my back this whole time they’ve moved back in town and that they didn’t want me to attend their Christmas party.I genuinely offered my friendship to them and had no idea. I’m not sure why she decided to tell me this but now she messages me every now and then asking for forgiveness and asks to continue being friends after this. I’m not sure what to do or feel. I do want to be present for her child because I did promise in front of God to guide her on a good path, but I’m not sure how to separate my feelings/actions between the sister-in-law and my goddaughter.: Perhaps the best way to guide your goddaughter on a good path is to set an example of how healthy friendships work, and how we take care of ourselves when the bond of trust is breached. To that end, I don’t think you owe it to the sister-in-law or your goddaughter to jump back into a close relationship. She has made that impossible, at least for now. Frankly, I don’t know why they’d ask someone they consistently gossip about to be the godmother. You’re likely wondering the same thing. Try telling your friend that directly. “I want to be there for your daughter, as I promised, but the way you two talked about me and to me makes me doubt your intentions.” Ask her if this is really the kind of situation she thinks will produce the best care and guidance for her daughter. Depending on your faith traditions, the specific promises that you made will vary. But many traditions include the promise to pray for the godchild. Even if your relationship with your goddaughter’s mother is irrevocably severed, prayer for her daughter might be a path that works for you.who found 60-year-old letters from her deceased husband’s divorce lawyer regarding the husband’s first marriage and didn’t know whether to share those letters with the husband’s adult children. As a professional historian and archivist for more than 35 years and my own family’s archivist, I’d advise that Shared History make copies of all the pertinent documents and send them to each child to do as they will. These documents are a record of their lives and family’s history. You have no idea what piece of information floating in these kids’ heads might suddenly click into place after reading these documents. Family records should always be passed down to the subsequent generations no matter the potential for discomfort. Censoring family history serves no one, and as you have often mentioned in your column secrets serve no one.I appreciate you writing, because you changed my mind on this. It’s up to the children whether they want to learn more or not. In my original response, I posited that the father would have shared the letters in his lifetime if he wanted the children to know this information. But it’s also true that he would have destroyed them if he didn’t want them to know. We can’t tell our sides of the stories after we’re gone; that’s why family historians are so important.who considered splitting her husband’s deceased wife’s remains among four urns for the children is perfect, emotionally. But please let that family know they shouldn’t try to split the remains themselves.Miss Manners: I was stuck in a room with this distressing womanAsking Eric: I need a snappy comeback to busybodies who comment on my unmarried daughter Harriette Cole: I’ve been dodging him for weeks because I can’t repay him. Is there a way out of this? Cremated remains aren’t like in the movies, and odds are if the family tries to split them themselves, they will end up with mom’s ashes all over the table/ground/and or themselves with no way to, respectfully, get them back where they belong. If they take the urn to a licensed mortuary or crematory, a professional can handle it for them and spare them that trauma.It’s amazing the logistical steps that don’t occur until after you’re standing over a table asking your relatives “Well, what now?” Thanks for this very helpful hint. Send questions to R. Eric Thomas at eric@askingeric.com or P.O. Box 22474, Philadelphia, PA 19110. Follow him on Instagram @oureric and sign up for his weekly newsletter at rericthomas.com.Asking Eric: I need a snappy comeback to busybodies who comment on my unmarried daughterDear Abby: Another outburst will cost me my job, but it's so hard to hold in my indignationMiss Manners: If only one of you is wearing clothes, then you're not friendsDear Abby: They nag me when I post about my unusual hobby. What can I do other than unfriend them? Harriette Cole: I’ve been dodging him for weeks because I can’t repay him. Is there a way out of this? Harriette Cole: I've been dodging him for weeks because I can't repay him. Is there a way out of this?New Parkinson's treatment developed at Stanford could help millions
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