Should I cut my losses and move on?
Recently my first cousin, Melanie, contacted me to offer condolences at the passing of my wife. The contact came after an uncomfortable hiatus of 18 years during which Melanie and I drifted apart from each other.
While I would love to forget those 18 years and rebuild my suddenly resuscitated relationship with my incredibly attractive and massively accomplished cousin, she appears to be holding those long years against me and is obviously ambivalent about rebuilding a lapsed familial bond. Although I have been able to meet her and her lovely family members once, my subsequent overtures via phone and email have been most brutally and unceremoniously rebuffed. But I am determined to pursue this despite insurmountable barriers she has so consistently erected.
I wonder if you would recommend a different approach, or perhaps this relationship now is totally unsalvageable, and I should cut my losses and move on.Talking about your cousin’s attractiveness and your insistence on breaking through her barriers raises a flag. Like a big flag. One of those banners that fly behind planes.
Your intentions don’t seem familial. And that’s likely coming through to Melanie. Even if everything is on the up and up, her “no” is a complete sentence and you should respect it.If you purchase a product or register for an account through a link on our site, we may receive compensation.
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