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: I’m in my late 50s, my husband is in his early 70s. While he’s always been incredibly intelligent, he has also always had a very poor memory. We believe he might also have ADHD.Asking Eric: My ex says I’m a ‘fixer’ and she doesn’t want my help with her big problemAs he’s aged, his memory and decision-making has worsened. Several years ago, we had him baselined by a neuropsychologist, then re-evaluated twice. His assessment showed nothing more than age-related memory changes.
He is quite capable and independent now, but I will be his caregiver as he grows older. If I’m this frustrated and at a loss now, I’m concerned about what is to come.In the book “Dirty Laundry: Why Adults with ADHD Are So Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help,” Richard Pink and Roxanne Emery write, “You can’t shame yourself, or be shamed, into being more functional.” This is a message for your husband and for you.
Even though your husband’s memory issues are age-related, your state’s Department of Aging will have resources for you. For instance, the Texas Department of Aging has a hotline staffed by trained professionals – 855-YES-ADRC.I’ve been living with my niece for the past year since my mom passed. Neither of us knows anyone outside of family.
You’re confronting social problems and financial problems at once. It’s no wonder you’re overwhelmed.
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