There are aspects of her personality that I find off-putting. For instance, she can be imperious and rude with restaurant staff.
Twenty-six years ago, I became friends with another woman at the company where I used to work. We’re retired now. The odds of us becoming friends seemed remote, since we seem to be opposites in personality, but our friendship has endured.
I want to keep our friendship, I just don’t want to see her every month. I want to go back to our random lunches . How can I tell her that I want to stop the monthly schedule and go back to “occasionally” lunching with her without hurting her feelings?You’re right that telling her you don’t want to see her as much will likely hurt her feelings. There’s no good way of saying “you’re better in small doses.” So, blame the calendar.
The next time her imperious streak shows up, kindly but firmly call it out. Tell her that it’s something that bothers you and that you wish she’d make a more empathetic choice. It’s what a friend would do.Like many of my friends in their late 20s, my life is still in draft form. There are so many moving pieces, but by now I have a rough blueprint of where I want to go. I work full time and I am also a full-time graduate student.
Professional DJs mix live, moving the bass up, the treble down; sampling, starting another track that only they can hear, while the current track finishes up. It’s a lot of moving around. Every track is different. And there’s always going to be somebody out in the crowd screaming “You’re doing it wrong. Play ‘Wonderwall’!”
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